Here We Go Again

 So, it was a thing this week when Kaley Cuoco said she wasn’t a feminist. By that I mean, a lot of people had stuff to say about it. Which pleases me, because I like that people get called out for misusing words, especially the one that defines me a lot.

As for what Cuoco said? When Redbook asked if she considered herself a feminist, she said “Is it bad if I say no? It’s not really something I think about. Things are different now, and I know a lot of the work that paved the way for women happened before I was around … I was never that feminist girl demanding equality, but maybe that’s because I’ve never really faced inequality.”

The thing is, if she doesn’t want to call herself that, it’s fine. We all know that feminism means ending sexism and

Tell em, Aziz!

equality between the sexes, so unless she doesn’t believe in that, she actually is in fact a feminist. She also mentioned how she really loves cooking for her husband, as if that somehow reinforced the whole not being a feminist bit, but we’ll get back to that.

She’s allowed to be uninformed about definitions, that’s fine, but I do think it’s irritating that she said that she’s not a feminist in part because she’s never faced inequality. I personally have never experienced discrimination because of the color of my skin but I still care that others do. Justifying not being into equality because you haven’t experienced inequality yourself is kind of a jerkface move. The pleasure of privilege, to not have to think about these things, I guess.

Anywho, I happened upon an article about this from a conservative blogger, and she attempted to paint the story differently. Essentially saying “feminists are losing their shit because Cuoco denounces feminism and loves cooking for her man. Good for her for defying the wishes of feminists and embracing the domestic lifestyle.” But that isn’t what anyone was upset about, at all. It wasn’t about her choices, it was about how she thought those choices made her unable to be a feminist.

Because, feminism is about choice. This is repetitive, but here we go. If you like cooking for your man, cool.

Once I baked bread, in heels, and lingerie, and you better believe it was feminist as fuck.

If you like shaving your legs, cool. If you like wearing high heels, or doing anything else that is considered stereotypically feminine, COOL. None of that is anti-feminist. I personally enjoy doing all of those things, and I have the damn word “FEMINIST” tattooed on my wrist. Equal opportunity is part of the deal. Cooking food for your hubby is actually more empowering as a choice, since that’s what it is; a choice, not your only option.

I will admit that conservatives have done an amazing job in the past at changing narratives when they don’t like how reality is, but when it comes to defining feminists as ugly, alternative lifestyle living, unhappy women, they’re in a losing battle. It’s hard to define the narrative that feminism is a fringe, radical movement when we have Queen Bey proudly standing in front of the word a story high. Or even when T-Swift has joined the team and corrected herself after previously saying things similar to Cuomo.

Why even care about what celebrities have to say? While they may not be activists, they do have clout, especially with youth. I’m just super happy that more and more celebrities are wearing the label proudly. It makes the Fox News croud look even sillier when they try to say feminism is something it isn’t.