We should all be feminists. Yeah, you too.

So last week I was alerted by a few different people about this new article  with women listing reasons why they didn’t need feminism. Pretty much immediately, the thread on one of the posts exploded with angry comments from my friends. I decided that while I would indeed do something with this as requested, I needed to wait until the day I was actually going to record because I didn’t want to deal with being pissed off for five days until I had time to address it.

Well, today, after reflecting on other things I had wanted to talk about, writing minimal notes for once and drinking some yummy cider, I made this video; free stream of thoughts, barely outlined, and completely without censorship. Because of this, here are some disclosures before jumping in;

*What I lacked in structure I made up for. In vulgarity. Part of the appeal of this video is that some folks encouraged me to read the women’s reasons for the first time as I recorded, because a) could I actually argue against their logic? and b) Jessi rants are, if nothing else, pretty funny.

*Trigger warning. Several of the women in the post addressed sexual assault in a super charming victim-blaming way. I have some heavy thoughts on that.

*Since there was no outline and I was doing my own thing, this ended up being way. too. damn. long. Seriously, if you manage to watch it the whole way through I will personally bake  you amazing, delicious, feministy cupcakes.

*Only half of the above asterisk is true.


So that’s that. One of my favorite quotes that addresses women who don’t recognize their privilege or what feminism has done for them comes from Amy Poehler: “; “I don’t get it. That’s like someone being like, “I don’t really believe in cars, but I drive one every day and I love that it gets me places and makes life so much easier and faster and I don’t know what I would do without it.”

That pretty much sums it up.

I don’t fault these women, and I think some of them were awesome in their desire to assert their independence and confidence, unaware that these sentiments are, in fact very feminist. As I said before, I (like a lot of people) are constantly evolving with our beliefs as we are exposed to different situations, people, realities that we would have no context or way of considering without that actual exposure. However, like I assumed before even watching the video, these women really don’t understand what feminism is to be against it. I hope some of them will read more and realize they aren’t actually against feminism, aka, equality.

Let’s recap; a feminist is a person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes. We should all be feminists. This belief should be a given, for everyone.

I don’t have the time or energy to justify my beliefs to people who are utterly closed off and indeed willfully resistant to the idea (and mountains of research to support it) that feminism is still needed and has merit, for both women AND men. People who refuse to be educated, simply won’t be, and it does sadden me that this includes women who have absolutely benefited from feminism.

At the end of the day though, we can feel pissed off, irritated, and even hopeless temporarily when we read stuff like this, I know I do, but that just means we need to focus on the different areas we can have an impact on.

And for people that don’t like it? I believe this sums it up:


The amazing Kathleen Hanna said, “I don’t care if people believe feminism is important, because I know it is… and other people can think whatever they want. My problem is when people get in the way of feminism because they don’t want to believe in it, or they don’t want to care about it. That’s totally fine, but they should stay out of my way.”